John Bonavia Founder of new beginnings


I am John Bonavia a person deeply indulged in spreading goodness and bringing the best out of every human being. As an outgoing person, I found myself keenly interested in psychology and always trying to improve my personality as well as attempting to extend my good qualities to others. Whether it is about grabbing a cup of coffee or exploring the mountains with a group of friends, you require a considerable amount of sobriety. For me, sobriety has much greater weightage in anyone’s personality than anything else.

It should be reflected in every move and discussion. Out of several different aims, I now strive to develop sobriety in people as it is the first step to getting the life you want. Personally, I used to agree with the Woods discussion of emotional sobriety and how to achieve it. Here’s what you need to know. Woods says that emotional sobriety doesn’t mean that we experience “positive” emotions all of the time and that’s not the point. It’s more about developing the tools you need to work through the problematic feelings, behaviors and situations as they come up.

First, Woods points out that it’s important to understand that we may not be in control over what happens to us, but we are in control of how we respond to it. Following are the points where a man should have the courage to show the sobriety and positive way of thinking in every way of life.

  1. We live the majority of our lives in the present moment, attending to what is, rather than getting caught up in thoughts about the past or the future.

    We don’t beat ourselves up for past mistakes. Instead, we learn from the past while devoting the majority of our energy to living today well. We recognize that each day is a new opportunity to do so.

  2. We are able to regulate our behavior, rather than being at the mercy of compulsive urges or other self-destructive patterns.

    We don’t engage in any substance use or behaviors to the point of self-harm. Instead, we make conscious and mindful decisions regarding how to respond to the situation at hand.

  3. We effectively balance our “shoulds” and “want tos” lists.

    We use our time and energy appropriately, so we aren’t maxed out at the end of the day. We prioritize our activities and are able to say no to certain things, so as to say yes to the most important things.

  4. We cope effectively with life’s ups and downs.

    When life throws us a curve, we handle the challenge with integrity and grace, rather than allowing intense feelings to drive us to dysfunctional behavior. We can step back and see the big picture.

  5. We have close, fulfilling, and healthy relationships with other people.

    We can speak honestly with others. Our relationships are mutually and consistently supportive, encouraging, and uplifting. We shift from blaming others to looking at our own part in conflicts.

  6. We have an optimistic yet realistic view of life, ourselves, and the future, even in tough times.

    We live based on our values and believe that we can make a positive difference in the world, in both small and large ways, and we strive to do so every day.

  7. We know our limitations.

    We steer clear of situations and people that might lure us into indulging in addictive behavior. We don’t tempt fate.

To help achieve sobriety, it is recommended to practicing mindfulness, journaling, participating in a support group, or going to therapy. But more than anything, it’s about reframing how you think about challenges and how you respond to them. Our website will be a great platform where one can get to know sobriety and positive way of thinking in our daily life. Our website will provide you help to attain these perspectives in life. “The Gateway Advantage” aimed to provide you help to become soberer during lifetime.

Satisfaction of soul has a strong connection with spirituality which gives meaning to life and a sense of aliveness. Since beginning, I am habitually a deep thinker whose built-in memory keeps the words saved for decades. When I was in college, I learnt the proceeding quote from the philosopher, A.W. Tozer.

“What comes into our minds when we think about God is the most important thing about us.”

(A.W. Tozer)

I realized its significance as nothing is more essential to our lives than the understanding of spirituality. It is a wide-ranging concept including: ourselves, others, morality, evil, money and afterlife. Almost every day, I spend time exploring spirituality which gives a soothing effect to my soul.

I think there is always an experience, a person or even a single quote which works as a U-turn in your life. There is a famous quote which clicked me as soon as I heard my mentor quoting it while he was sharing his journey of transforming into a positive and a satisfied soul. I would like to share that famous quote:

“Positive thinking is more than just a tagline. It changes the way we behave. And I firmly believe that when I am positive, it not only makes me better, but it also makes those around me better” (Hervay Mackay).

No doubt, this quote urged me to think about the importance of positivity in life, satisfaction it brings to our soul and impacts surroundings as well. I believe, adoption of positivity brings constructive changes leading to happier, brighter and successful life.

Moreover, the recipe for making a balanced and amazing personality requires some but important ingredients. I am fortunate enough to travel beyond the borders and interact with culturally diverse people to attain unmatchable exposure. While following my passion of exploring new places, trying out new food and interacting with people, I always focus on remaining positive and prioritizing happiness over anything. I have a firm belief that goodness is just like knowledge which enhances when it is being shared with others. Same way, I try to spread sobriety, positivity and happiness through my acts and dealing with other people.

Whenever I think through the acts which bring happiness to my life I find ‘helping others’ the dominant one. Helping one another also promotes positive behavior which is my central aim and one of those important ingredients in making sober yet amiable personality. Keeping in mind the importance of helping others, I took an initiative named as “The Gateway Advantage” in San Diego to assist companies in marketing and sales area. Later on, it was found that entrepreneurs require greater support so it expanded to meetings with alike people and having healthy discussions over the problems faced. The Gateway Advantage is striving to facilitate businesses a platform to expand with convenient networking with each other.

At “The Gateway Advantage” we want to help you get smarter about how you earn, save and spend your money. With a focus on success, money, work and life, we provide information and inspiration to navigate your big financial firsts: from landing your dream job, to starting a business, to investing in your future and leading a rich life.

Tapping into “The Gateway Advantage” unprecedented access to the most successful people in business, our authoritative yet conversational content will inspire you, guide you and help you make it on your path in life. We’re like your smart friend with great advice about money. And we think you’ll have some fun along the way.


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